The very first track I ever released as a single for Softenon Babe is a 4-minute-long (and still quite musical-sounding) track called My Accrotomophile Boyfriend. I’m still very happy to see that people overall really liked it. But there’s one thing that I feel I should have clarified a bit more, maybe: the title itself!
As you probably know by now, if you’ve been following me for a while, most of my releases are concept-based, and this track is no exception.
It actually comes from a fear that I have and that I suspect other disabled people have. The fear of getting into a relationship that’s not based on real sentiments for the person we are but on some sort of fetish for malformed bodies.
Yes, it exists. I have experienced it myself online, and it was when I told a friend about that very weird experience I had that the concept for the track emerged.
My friend had been reading a lot about paraphilias—recurring or intense sexual arousal toward atypical objects, places, situations, fantasies, behaviors, or individuals. And she remembered the specific name for when a person fetishizes amputees. You guessed it. Accrotomophilia.
From what I understand, accrotomophilia is based not only on how phallic amputees’ stumps can look but also on a certain lust for dominance in both sexual life and daily life.
Now I’m not an amputee myself. But as someone who always had to deal with that constant fear I mentioned and the overall loneliness that often comes with being disabled, I could see how special and unhoped it would feel to see a “”normal”” human fall in love with you. But what’s truly devastating is the downfall that comes after, the moment one realizes there was a big misunderstanding and that it might not be the fairytale everyone thought it was.
To find out what I did with this theme, give My Accrotomophile Boyfriend a listen on Bandcamp.
